And they are off!

After numerous hours of cutting, pasting, collecting addresses, and licking envelopes; our save-the-date magnets are in the mail. I fell as though we have reached a milestone in our wedding planning. When we first starting seriously planning in August, the wedding was "ours." Back in December, we brought our wedding party on board by sending out the wedding party newsletter. Now we have added our guests to the mix.

I should mention that we sent our save-the-dates out in two batches. The first batch of about 40 went out at the beginning of the month. Back when I ordered the magnets in October, our guest list was still on the smallish side and was far from being finalized. I ended up about 30 magnets short, so we decided to first send save-the-dates out to the people that would be traveling the farthest so that they could have first pick of our hotel blocks. I made my re-order for the additional 30 magnets at the same time with the plan to send out a second round as soon as they came in. Last night we mailed out the save-the-dates to the more "local" people on our guest list, which we defined as people that would not require a flight to get here. Lesson learned the hard way. To all future brides, I know that you are excited to start planning your weddings. Take a step back, and finalize your guest list and budget before booking/ordering anything. It is so much easier than having to re-do things later.

Did you send out save-the-dates for your wedding?

What's Cookin? Our Reception Menu

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One of Tom's favorite hobbies is cooking, and he is really good at it. We have spent many evenings cooking various culinary delights for a living room full of friends and would would never think of having it any other way. That being said, food at our wedding was definitely a priority. Tom refuses to serve his guests sub-par food, and insisted on trying the food before considering a place as a possible reception venue. Our reception venue passed Tom's scrutiny with flying colors. We booked the place shortly thereafter.

Over the holidays, we had the chance to sit down with our reception site coordinator to discuss the menu. Our original intention was to have a sit-down buffet, or family-style meal. Our guest list is full of notoriously picky eaters, and to accommodate everyone, we decided on a selection of comfort foods. After discussing this with the coordinator, it was decided that a traditional buffet would be the most efficient way to serve everyone. At first this made me nervous, I was concerned about the formality of a buffet, and I did not want my guests to be standing in line for long periods of time. Our coordinator assured me that everything will be run as efficiently a possible, with two double-sided buffets that will allow four lines of guests to be accommodated at one time. It took me a minute, but I warmed to the idea. Once the dinner style was selected, we were able to focus on what we would be serving. We chose a variety of appetizers to be served during cocktail hour, as well as the various entrées that would make up our buffet.

We are expecting to have a short cocktail hour, so we opted to go with simple hors d'oeuvres that would not spoil dinner. Upon arriving to our reception, guests will be welcomed with platters of local cheeses, fresh vegetables, fruits, and cocktail snacks. After Tom and I arrive, guests will be served salads at their tables. Then they will be called by table to the buffet where they will have their choice of a variety of comfort foods, such as Italian meatballs, vegetarian lasagna, honey mustard chicken, and baked haddock (we had to incorporate Maine somehow!). Guests will also have their selection of a variety of sides, including mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, vegetables, and various side salads. Dessert will be our wedding cake, which is lemon cake with choice of almond or fudge buttercream.  I'm getting hungry just thinking about it.

My approach to our wedding menu was inspired by a wedding show that I was watching one day. The host was helping a bride choose her reception menu, and asked her to think not only about what she thought of each dish, but what her guests thought of each dish. We wanted to have a menu that made our guests happy and left them satisfied. I think that our menu will do just that.

Did you include a meal as part of your reception?

8 months!!!

8 months to go! Where did the last month go? I feel like I just wrote my 9 month entry. Now that the hustle and bustle of the holidays are behind us, Tom and I have the joy of being able to say "we are getting married this year." It feels nice that 2011 is finally here. This is our year. It was easy to come up with New Year's resolutions this year; to find a job, take better care of myself, and get married.

Despite the busy holiday season, I was able to get a lot accomplished this month (most of which I haven't been able to write about yet!). I finished up finding our vendors. Our florist has been selected, the contract was signed, and a deposit was paid. All of our wedding flowers have been selected, and I know what my bouquet will look like.

We met with our reception venue coordinator and reserved our wedding night suite. We also selected our reception menu, and started reception planning. On the DIY side of things, I started figuring out how to decorate the reception tables, including centerpiece mock-ups.

We also starting planning our wedding music. I found a classical guitarist to play our ceremony music and we selected music for our ceremony processional and recessional. Just yesterday I had a phone consultation with a DJ, and once he sends me a contract we will be well on the way towards planning the reception music as well.

This month also begins the involvement of the wedding party and guests with our wedding. We sent out a wedding party newsletter to put our entire wedding party on the same page in regards to attire, travel arrangements, and weekend scheduling. We also stayed up late one evening addressing save-the-date envelopes and sent them out to our guests that will be travelling the farthest. The remaining save-the-dates will be sent out this month.

I am planning on ordering my dress in the next week or so, and I have been working to get everything that I will need for that. I finally found my purple wedding shoes. I am still on the look-out for a strapless long-line bra. Oh, and I almost forgot. Tom got me a little "something blue" for Christmas. 

My goals for the next month are to order my dress (this week!), send out the rest of my save-the-date magnets, obtain measurements from bridesmaids in preparation for ordering their dresses, finish the bubbles and ribbon wands that I have been putting off, and pay the deposits for my ceremony musician and dj.

I'm enjoying the rather relaxed feeling towards wedding planning that I have right now. All of my major vendors are either selected or booked and the majority of my DIY projects are complete. Now I get to just relax, enjoy being engaged, and look forward to the wedding in 8 months.

Decorating the reception tables

One of the many things that I love about our reception venue is that in terms of decor, it is a blank slate. The walls are a neutral shade of ivory, the floor is hues of gray, the chairs are a grayish-ivory, and the table linens are ivory. I do not have any pre-existing themes or color schemes to work around. Perfect. I also love the chandeliers above each table. For weddings, they lower the chandeliers over each table, it really creates a nice abiance.

I am not planning to have a lot of decorations at the reception. My budget does not exactly allow me to, but at the same time, the space already has a certain elegance to it, and we really want that clean look. Our cake baker will be decorating the cake table, the gift table more or less will decorate itself, the same is true with the escort card table, and I have some definite ideas for the guest book table (more on that later). All that is left are the guest tables and the head table. I decided to start by figuring out the guest tables, and maybe that will lead me to how to decorate the head table. If not, well, I guess I have about 8 months to figure that out.

First things first, the guest tables are huge. Each one fits between 10-12 people. On the positive side, this cuts down on the number of centerpieces that I will need. On the down side, each table is this huge canvas of ivory that needs serious attention. To start, we are going to put a Victorian lilac table runners on each table. To add to the mood, each table will also have several purple votive candles as well. Each table will also have a seashell table number.

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In regards to place settings, I have fallen in love with the picture to the left. Unfortunately, it is completely unrealistic to do this at our reception. We are having a buffet, so it would be useless to have chargers at each setting, and what would I do with 150 chargers after the wedding? For the same reason, the lavender napkins are also out. I would have to purchase them all, and I cannot think of a good use for 150 lavender napkins. So, my goal is to replicate the look, without the charger, with an ivory napkin, and a menu that I make on Vistaprint. We'll see how it goes. Each place setting will also have a candle favor.

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As far as centerpieces go, this is where I plan to mix things up a bit. In an earlier post I mentioned that we were avoiding floral centerpieces. This is what I came up with in place. Half of the tables will have wooden sailboats that look like the picture to the right. They are 9" wide and 19" tall, which is the perfect size to add height to some of the tables, but still allow guests to have conversations across the table.

The remaining half of the tables will have handmade centerpieces. I wanted a way to incorporate seashells into my centerpieces without having them out on the tables where they could potentially come in contact with food. After looking online for some inspiration, this is what I came up with. The glass vase is filled with varying shades of green sea glass, sea shells, and a vanilla pillar candle. They are really simple to assemble, and, the best part is I was able to purchase all the supplies at the local dollar store. Each centerpiece costs me about $4 to make, and I have tons of extra shells left over to use elsewhere.

They look really pretty lit up too.

How did you decorate the tables at your reception? Did you make your centerpieces?

Purple Wedding Shoes!

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One of the first things that caught my eye when I started planning our wedding were these pictures of brides with brightly colored shoes. I fell in love instantly, and I knew that this was a wedding trend that I would definitely be taking part in. It was then that I started my quest to find purple shoes. Which proved to be easier said than done. Purple is one of my favorite colors, so I was looking for a pair of purple shoes that I could wear to the wedding, but then incorporate into my wardrobe. This required me to find a pair of shoes that were actually purple, as opposed to dyable shoes. Dyables are pretty, don't get me wrong, but they tend to be made of satin, which catches on things, and they really are not meant to be worn more than a couple of times.

My other requirements for purple shoes were to have a slight heel, but nothing more than two inches, and to be comfortable, since I will be wearing them for at least the duration of the wedding ceremony. Much to my chagrin, purple shoes are hard to find. Especially at a price that is within my budget. I exhausted online resources and finally started searching local shoe stores with little to no avail. When I could find purple shoes, they tended to have a three to four inch heel. They were not comfy, and I could not imagine walking in them outside at our ceremony venue. I was starting to think that my purple shoes may be coming in the form of converses.

Then came Thursday. I was out shopping and I found my shoes. Simple, comfortable, two inch heel, suede, and, most importantly, purple. Well, plum technically. I put them on and fell in love. I have my shoes! I've already worn them around the house to "break them in." These will definitely become part of my wardrobe after my wedding. As for the purple converses, I might need a pair of purple dancing shoes for the reception. We shall see.

Our Wedding Flowers- Our Parents

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Last but not least are the flowers for our parents, specifically for my mom, Tom's mom, my father, and step-father.

Our mothers will (hopefully) be wearing green, so to compliment they will be wearing lavender rose corsages. Depending on what type of attire they decide on, I may switch things up and give them wrist corsages in place of pin on corsages.

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The fathers will be wearing lavender rose boutonnieres, which will be different from Tom's in that they will just be a lavender rose, no hypericum berries or limonium.

Once again, all of the flower pictures from the last three posts are courtesy of google image search. They are not our actual wedding flowers because well, our wedding has not happened yet ;) . So that is why the roses are not all the same, and why there are extra types of greenery and extra flowers. Regardless, I am excited.

Our Wedding Flowers- The Wedding Party

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Next up in my little series on our wedding flowers is our wedding party. The starting point for flowers for our wedding party was actually the bridesmaid's dresses. The reasoning here was not-so-much the style of the dress, but more the color. We wanted the girl's bouquets to "pop" against their dresses. Since that pretty much knocks purple out, and it would look funny for the girls to be carrying white if the bride isn't carrying white, we were left with green. Our florist recommended bouquets of green hydrangeas with green hypericum berries for texture, and purple limonium for a hint of color. I was sold.

This would probably be a good place for me to mention my growing love for hydrangea. When ordering a bulk amount of flowers, the florist usually charges you per stem of whatever flowers you want. In the case of roses, a stem yields a single flower. This brings the price up quickly. In contrast, for hydrangea, a stem can have literally dozens of flowers on it in one big poof. In the case of my bridesmaids bouquets, the girls will each be able to carry a good sized bouquet, which in reality is only about four stems. This is definitely something to look into if you are like me, and not so thrilled with the idea of your bridesmaids carrying single stems in order to save money. Anyway, I digress.

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Once the bridesmaid's bouquets were decided, the next step was to determine the groomsmen's boutonnieres. I actually have to hand full credit on this one over to the florist. She suggested hypericum berries with hints of limonium for color. They will match the bridesmaid's bouquets in that they will be green with a touch of purple, but at the same time, they are not completely matchy-matchy. I love the idea and I think the hypericum boutonnieres are a bit more masculine than the traditional flower ones. I am also happy that the florist was able to suggest this to me, because I was racking my brain in attempt to figure out how to make hydrangea work in a boutonniere. Our groomswoman will wear a larger version of the groomsmen's boutonniere with ribbon on it for a feminine touch. Our ring bearer will wear a smaller version of the groomsmen's boutonniere.

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The only member of the wedding party that is left is the flower girl. She is the exception to my "real flowers for the wedding party" rule. Our flower girl will be just over 2 1/2 at the time of our wedding. I know that rose petals are non-toxic, but one can never be certain about the pesticides used on the rose petals. To play everything safe, I've opted to fill her basket with lavender and ivory silk rose petals. To my surprise, I have since learned that there are other benefits to silk petals. They are much more cost effective than actual petals, I do not have to worry about natural pigments staining my dress, and they are significantly easier to clean up after the ceremony.


What did your wedding party's flowers look like? Did you use real flowers or silk?

Our Wedding Flowers- The Bride and Groom

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As I hinted about it in my first post about our flowers, after receiving consults from several local florists, I was finally able to find one that could grant me everything I wanted at a price that was well within our budget. I signed the contract and deposited that florist this past  Wednesday, and through the wonders of Google Image Search I am able to post rough approximations of what our flowers will look like.

First things first, my bouquet. Aside from my insistence on having roses and hydrangea, I also wanted a hand-tied bouquet with no white. I wanted my bouquet to be a pop of color against my dress. The florist suggested a hand-tied bouquet of green hydrangea, lavender roses, green hypericum berries, and purple limonium. This would be very similar to the bouquet I have pictured to the left, minus the large purple flowers that are not roses, and the larger white flowers.

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Tom's boutonniere will coordinate with my bouquet in that it will consist of a lavender rose with green hypericum berries and a touch of limonium.

On a side note, I was once told that a groom's boutonniere traditionally matches the bride's bouquet because in medieval times a knight always wore his ladies colors. I don't know if this is true or not, but the history geek in my loves it.

What types of flowers did you incorporate in your wedding bouquet? Did your groom "wear his ladies colors"?

Farewell 2010, Bring on 2011

Happy New Year! I wish that I could provide pictures of my and Tom ringing in the new year, but sadly, we made it to about 11pm and then crashed. I guess you can say we are getting old. On the positive side, we have all kinds of munchies for the football game today.

The new year always makes me reflective. This year a bit more so, because 2010 was a year of transition for me. I became engaged, I started looking forward to my future, I moved from Missouri to Maine, and I am between careers. Through all of this Tom and I are still together, and smiling. So I would have to say that we are doing okay. 2011 starts with us preparing for one of the biggest transitions of our lives. Our marriage. The day that we say goodbye to the single life forever and start facing the world as a single unit. There are not words to express how excited I am. At the same time, I am trying hard not to wish away the next few months so that I can enjoy wedding planning.

I have several New Year's Resolutions this year. To find a job, to shed a couple of pounds, to get our finances in order, to move into our own apartment, and, of course, to get married. Once September passes, our goals will shift to saving up for a down payment on our first home, and starting a family.

Real Flowers, On a Budget

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 Our wedding flowers are one of those things that I am really picky about. I'm using silk flowers for the ceremony, candle centerpieces for the reception, but for my bouquet, I wanted real flowers. I also wanted roses. And I was not budging. Fortunately, Tom understood my desire for a real flower bouquet and without debate made sure that there was room in the budget for them.

Wow... maybe I should explain myself. 

I'll begin by stating that I have absolutely nothing against silk flowers or some other non-flower bouquet (brooches, butterflies, etc.) They just are not for me. I have seen some silk bouquets that look so real I've had to do a double take, and my mom will likely make a silk replica of my bouquet as a keepsake (she has for everyone else). My reasoning behind wanting real flowers is simple, I love roses. They are my favorite flower, which is something I share with my grandmother. Rose is also my middle name, so really, it's only fitting. I have yet to see a silk rose that truly captures the intricate beauty of a rose. I have also yet to see a silk rose that properly captures the scent of a real rose. Real it is. 

Real flowers have two major drawbacks. First and foremost, they die. There isn't much that can be done about that. My goal is to keep flowers in the fridge for as long as possible. Part of my reception decor will include vases put out on the head table full of water for bouquets. I'm also trying to figure out a way to keep the flowers in water on the way to and from the ceremony. I have time. 

The other major drawback is the price. Flowers are expensive. This is where I did my homework. First and foremost, I started limiting my total flower order. I opted to use silk flowers on my wedding arch and flower cones. This is definitely more economical, but it also makes more logistical sense. Tom and the boys will be setting up our ceremony site before the ceremony. Which means that the flowers will be sitting out in the September sun in a windy, ocean side environment for several hours before the ceremony begins. I was afraid the flowers would be wilted before the ceremony began. Not to mention, our ceremony is only going to be about half an hour long, I couldn't justify spending money on flowers that would only be used for such a brief period of time. As I hinted to above, our bouquets will be doing double-duty at the reception as decor.

In terms of reception flowers, I opted for candle centerpieces instead of the traditional floral ones. Most of my guests are travelling from out-of-state and would not be able to take the centerpieces anyway. I also love the look of candle light, and I really think it add a cozy, intimate feel to our reception. 

Limonium
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So, with reception decor and ceremony decor out, I was left with "personal flowers," which include my bouquet, my bridesmaid's bouquets, boutonnieres, and corsages. To save money here, I did my homework again. First of all, it was really important for me to have roses, but not so important for everyone else to have roses. So I have roses in my bouquet to set it apart from the bridesmaids bouquet. Tom has a rose in his boutonniere to set his apart from the groomsmen's bouts. Secondly, I researched what flowers would be locally available in September and came up with hydrangeas. It is difficult and expensive to ship flowers from across the country, or across the world for that matter. This cost is added to the price per stem. If you purchase locally, you will get a better price, AND as an added benefit, your flowers will be fresher and should last longer. My final strategy was to put faith in experts. When I visited the florist, I explained that I was on a budget, that my colors were Victorian lilac and celadon green, and that I was open to any recommendations she could give me. With that, the florist gave me the suggestion of limonium, which is like a purple baby's breath, and hypericum berries. I guess I should also add that I shopped around with different florists. I had five different consultations before I finally chose my florist and put my deposit down.